The Shape the Moment Required
How Barbara Fritchie became a Yankee legend
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Release Date: April 21, 2026
How Barbara Fritchie became a Yankee legend
In the fall of 1862, the Union Army was not winning the War Between the States.
The summer had brought Second Bull Run, where John Pope’s army was routed and driven back toward Washington. Antietam had stopped Robert E. Lee’s advance into Maryland but at a cost so staggering – nearly 23,000 casualties in a single day – that stopping felt less like victory than survival. And now Lee’s army was withdrawing through Frederick, Maryland, moving west toward the mountains, and the people of that divided border town were coming out of their houses to watch.
What the Union needed in that moment, wasn’t another general. It had generals. What it needed was a sign that ordinary people – the ones left behind when the men marched off, the ones keeping house and tending gardens and watching armies pass through their streets – were holding firm. That someone, somewhere, with nothing but age and conviction and a small silk flag, was standing her ground.
Barbara Fritchie was that woman.
Born December 3, 1766, in Lancaster, Pennsylvania, Barbara was the fourth of what would be eight children of Johann Hauer and his wife Catherine. When a child, the family moved to Frederick, Maryland, where she remained the rest of her life.
Barbara grew up amid “circumstances which developed stability, patriotism, and loyalty”. She was nine when the Declaration of Independence was signed, and 22 when George Washington became America’s first president. Two years later, when Washington was traveling through Maryland and spent the night at Kimball’s Tavern, Barbara was on hand to serve the founding father tea, or so the story goes. And later, when the great man died, Barbara was among a group of young women chosen to serve as honorary pallbearers at a memorial service in his remembrance – this despite losing her own father just a week earlier. 1
In May of 1809, she married John Casper Fritchie. By then Barbara was an “old maid” of 39. Her groom was but 25. They never had children.
By all accounts – those of family as well as members of the Frederick community, Barbara was a woman of decided opinions, a sharp tongue, and a patriotism so deep and long-seasoned it had become simply the condition of her existence.
She was, in other words, exactly the shape the moment required.
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What actually happened outside the Fritchie home on West Patrick Street in Frederick, Maryland on the morning of September 10, 1862, Barbara Fritchie told to exactly one person – Miss Caroline Ebert, her dead husband’s niece, who called on her some weeks after the fact. Barbara had kept it to herself until then. She was afraid, she told Caroline, that her own niece, Kittie Hanshew, and the others would scold her. 2
They would have.
Hearing troops approaching, and believing them to be Union soldiers, Barbara had taken her silk flag – 22-inches long, 13-inches wide, with 34 whites stars upon the blue field – from between the leaves of the family Bible where she kept it, and stepped out onto the front porch prepared to cheer on the boys in blue.3
The troops had turned out to be Confederates. Barbara waved her flag anyway.
Almost immediately, an officer rode up. “Granny, give me your flag.”
“You can’t have it,” had said Barbara, continuing to wave her hand-stitched flag.
The officer then spoke to his men. They turned and faced her.
In Caroline’s retelling, Barbara believed the rebels meant to fire. Instead, the officer had ridden a short distance to Mill Alley, returned with another officer and more men, and tried again.
“Give me your flag, Granny, and I’ll stick it in my horse’s head.”
“No. You can’t have it.”
One of the soldiers had called out: “Shoot her damned head off.”
The officer had quickly turned on the man. “If you harm a hair of her head I’ll shoot you down like a dog.” Then, to Barbara: “Go on, Granny, wave your flag as much as you please.” 4
As the troops marched past, Barbara went back inside. She’d said nothing to her family.
That was the whole of it. Or so everyone thought.
Three months later, Barbara Hauer Fritchie was dead, taken out by pneumonia.
Caroline eventually retold Barbara’s story to a cousin named Cornelius S. Ramsburg, of Georgetown. Cornelius told it to his neighbor, the novelist Emma Dorothy Eliza Nevitte Southworth. And in August 1863, Emma wrote a letter to her friend, the poet John Greenleaf Whittier. 5
“When Lee’s army occupied Frederick the only Union flag displayed in the city was held by Mrs. Barbara Fritchie, a widow lady of ninety-six years. Such was the paragraph that went the rounds of the Washington papers last September. Some time afterward, from friends who were in Frederick at the time, I heard the whole story. It was the story of a woman’s heroism, which, when heard, seemed as much to belong to you as a book picked up with your autograph on the fly-leaf. So here it is .”
In Emma’s version, the flag was no longer waved from a porch at soldiers who mostly let the old woman be. It was displayed from an open garret window. The officer, now named as General Thomas “Stonewall” Jackson, ordered his men to fire, and they did. The staff broke. Barbara snatched the flag from the wreckage, leaned out over the street and dared the Rebel rabble to shoot her instead:
“Fire at this old head, then boys; it is not more venerable than your flag.” 6
Each telling had added a little more shape to what the next person needed the story to be, and Emma’s retelling was no exception.
Whittier opened his friend’s letter and wrote the ballad in a fortnight. He’d never been to Frederick. He didn’t know the streets or the creek, the geometry of the house or the woman who lived there.
But, he was a Quaker, an abolitionist and a strong Unionist, and he knew what the story passed down to him needed to be. What his fellow Northerners needed it to be.
The Atlantic Monthly published the poem, simply titled, “Barbara Fritchie,” in October of 1863. The editor’s reply to Whittier has survived:
“You were right in thinking I should like it, for so I do, as I like few things in this world. Enclosed is a check for fifty dollars ($50), but Barbara’s weight should be in gold.” 7
The poem spread through the Union states like a prairie fire. Here was the moment the North had been waiting for. Not a general. Not a battle. An old woman at a garret window, alone, waving the Stars and Stripes above an army that wanted to tear it down, rip it apart. And she dared them to do their worst.
That the woman was a true relic made it better. That she was dead by the time the poem was published better still. She couldn’t contradict it.
The pushback against Whittier’s poetic interpretation of recent history began almost immediately.
Stonewall Jackson’s staff insisted they had no memory of the incident, that the General had been otherwise occupied at the time, having gone to meet an old friend, a Presbyterian minister, that morning.
Soldiers who’d fought under him, who’s been in Frederick, denied outright even the suggestions that their venerated leader would disrespect any woman, even a Yankee woman. He was, after all, a Virginian by birth, a true Southern gentleman. Chivalry, they said, was in his blood.
The geography was wrong. The timing was off. And everyone knew that old Mrs. Fritchie was bedridden and wholly unable to walk without aid of a cane or companion.
For every refutation of Barbara’s story, however, a confirmation was waiting. Eyewitnesses stepped forward – soldiers and neighbors and dignitaries like social reformer Dorothea Dix – who claimed to have seen the flag, heard the volley, gotten the details from a friend of a friend.
As for Whitter, Barbara Fritchie, both the poem and the woman, only increased his reputation and celebrity, and he stood by both.
The poem, he said, “was written in good faith,” and based on newspaper articles and the account given to him in the letter from Emma Southworth.
“I had no reason to doubt its accuracy then, and I am still constrained to believe that it had foundation in fact. If I thought otherwise, I should not hesitate to express it. I have no pride of authorship to interfere with my allegiance to truth.” 8
And the woman was no legend.
“I had a portrait of the good Lady Barbara from the saintly hand of Dorothea Dix,” Whittier wrote to a friend in 1890, “and a cane from Barbara’s cottage sent me by Dr. Steiner, of the Maryland Senate. Whether she did all that my poem ascribed to her, or not, she was a brave, true woman.” 9
Post Script
Three days after her encounter with Confederate troops, Barbara Fritchie and her silk flag were on the street in front of her house when General Jesse L. Reno and his Union forces passed by on their way to South Mountain and Antietam. Like most people in town, the General had heard stories about the old woman who’d kept a Union flag flying from her window throughout the Rebel occupation, and he took the opportunity to meet the local hero whom he called, the true “Spirit of ’76.”
Barbara shook Reno’s hand and welcomed him into her home. Offered him a glass of homemade currant wine.
What exactly the two spoke of is unknown. But at some point, Reno asked if he might buy one of Barbara’s flags. The aged patriot said no, but she would be honored to give the General a large bunting flag she often flew from her dormer window. The gift was happily accepted.
General Reno was, that day, traveling with his brother, Colonel Benjamin Franklin Reno, and upon departing Barbara’s company, he handed the bunting flag to his brother for safe keeping.
“Frank,” he asked, “whom does she put you in mind of?” Colonel Reno’s reply was instantaneous, “Mother.” 10
The next day, General Reno was dead, mortally wounded on the field of battle in South Mountain.
Colonel Reno accompanied his brother’s body back home to Baltimore and carried Barbara’s bunting flag with him. Later, it was placed on the General’s casket. Later still, the General’s widow, Mary Cross Reno, was said to have kept the bunting flag in the army chest containing her husband’s uniform and sword.
Attached to the flag was a simple, handwritten note: Barbara Fritchie’s flag.
Copyright 2026 Lori Olson White
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End Notes
1 Henry Morris Nixdorff, John Greenleaf Whittier, “Life Of Whittier’s Heroine, Barbara Fritchie: Including a Brief but Comprehensive Sketch of Historic Old Frederick by Henry M. Nixdorff,”, W. T. Delaplaine & Co., Frederick, MD., 1887.
2 Miss Eleanor D. Abbott (Great Grandniece of Whittier’s Heroine), “A Sketch of Barbara Fritchie: Including Points of Interest in Rederick, Maryland, 1921.
3 Conrad Reno, “General Jesse Lee Reno at Frederick: Barbara Fritchie and her Flag,” Civil War Papers Read Before the Commandery of the State of Massachusetts, Military Order of the Loyal Legion of the United States, Vol 2, 1900, Boston, MA.
4 “Miss Eleanor D. Abbott (Great Grandniece of Whittier’s Heroine), “A Sketch of Barbara Fritchie: Including Points of Interest in Rederick, Maryland, 1921.
5 Conrad Reno, “General Jesse Lee Reno at Frederick: Barbara Fritchie and her Flag,” Civil War Papers Read Before the Commandery of the State of Massachusetts, Military Order of the Loyal Legion of the United States, Vol 2, 1900, Boston, MA.
6 Miss Eleanor D. Abbott (Great Grandniece of Whittier’s Heroine),“A Sketch of Barbara Fritchie: Including Points of Interest in Rederick, Maryland, 1921.
7 Miss Eleanor D. Abbott (Great Grandniece of Whittier’s Heroine),“A Sketch of Barbara Fritchie: Including Points of Interest in Rederick, Maryland, 1921.
8 Conrad Reno, “General Jesse Lee Reno at Frederick: Barbara Fritchie and her Flag,” Civil War Papers Read Before the Commandery of the State of Massachusetts, Military Order of the Loyal Legion of the United States, Vol 2, 1900, Boston, MA.
9 “ Miss Eleanor D. Abbott (Great Grandniece of Whittier’s Heroine),“A Sketch of Barbara Fritchie: Including Points of Interest in Rederick, Maryland, 1921.
10 “Conrad Reno, “General Jesse Lee Reno at Frederick: Barbara Fritchie and her Flag,” Civil War Papers Read Before the Commandery of the State of Massachusetts, Military Order of the Loyal Legion of the United States, Vol 2, 1900, Boston, MA.)
John Greenleaf Whittier, “Barbara Fritchie,” In War Time and Other Poems, Tickner and Fields, Boston, MA, 1864, p. 58.
Fascinating! I'm excited for the next episode of this story!
I love Barbara Fritchie! We read it in school, and I was inspired to visit the museum.